Wow Sol... Big day! Sorry that the process didn't move forward for you. Limbo sucks... I feel for you. Look on the bright side... You survived it and from the sounds of it with a lot of courage and grace. Congratulations! Now, since you've already done it, you know how strong you are and you know you can handle it!
Let him be pissed! he's acting like a two year old who doesn't get what he wants! Sounds to me like you're in a great place today and I say ride it all the way. You do deserve better and I'm happy to hear you say those things about yourself!
progress is progress! You're doing great!
When you are happy as an individual, you are in a better position to determine whether a partner enhances your happy life or weighs it down.