Sol, first off you deserve a big pat on your back for being so courageous to walk into that court room and standing your ground. I know the feeling and it's not easy; you feel like a criminal, you feel like you don't belong there. So that's a HUGE first step towards you finding your ground to stand on. I didn't want to say anything about it prior so as to not freak you out but you did it and I'm impressed
Of course your H was pissed, he thought he had you in his back pocket. He thought you'd cave first to his threats and then to his emotional BS. You showed him you're not some naiive girl that he can keep taking advantage of. I had a feeling they'd back out at the last minute...they wanted to play chicken and see who lets up first. You didn't...he did. A small but important victory for you!
I know you have feelings for him, I did too (for STBXW not your H )- some of us process things slowly and that's fine. But I think you're getting to that point of realizing all the damage he's caused when you've done nothing to deserve this. You're one of the sweetest people on here and it makes me upset he takes advantage of that. Well no more. You'll be fine and your future holds lots...just be patient. Get through the D, concentrate on school and your health. Things will fall into place when you least expect them.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
)- some of us process things slowly and that's fine. But I think you're getting to that point of realizing all the damage he's caused when you've done nothing to deserve this. You're one of the sweetest people on here and it makes me upset he takes advantage of that. Well no more. You'll be fine and your future holds lots...just be patient. Get through the D, concentrate on school and your health. Things will fall into place when you least expect them.