Detach. Be compassionate. Move forward with your life.
Empathy is all fine and well, and I actually endorse it. There's also reality, however. And I am not convinced there's a lot (or much of any) empathy for him coming from his wife: it's all about her being in control and getting what she wants.
That's fine. She wants a divorce, she wants him to pay for it, she wants him to do it when and how she wants it done and in such a way that he probably winds up with little in terms of co-parenting. In short, she's jumping ship, and she wants him to be the lifeboat until she finds another ship.
She has every right to choose to jump ship. He has every right to protect himself, his child, and his assets.
