I agree Soleil. It is unhealthy. But I don't know that it has been communicated. Said? Perhaps. Communicated? Maybe not. I also think that Doodi has other things going on that are being revisited. Is it because of the things going on in the marriage or the other way around? I think Doodi is trying to figure that out.
On another note about change. I was reading this the other day and thought it relevant. Reminds me of Ghandi - Be the change you want to see. http://www.divorcebusting.com/a_why_change.htm
Food for thought.
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."