We don't want to see what others see easily. Not that they are always right. My husband certainly has a side to him that not many people see, being military, but now he reserves all the kindness for the OW.
Again, I'm so sorry, and my prayers are with you.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
Thank you Upside. I thought he had time alone for a while, but I guess he didnt because he knew he always had me. That will change this time. He will know he dont have ME to come to when he is lonely!! I think he does like the hunt, the adrenaline rush he gets. That is what he lives for. You're right though, he cant handle the intimacy of a real R. Even with the OW before, he was so "in love" with her...yet he couldnt stay away from me. He and I have always in the past just had that sexual connection. BUT I no longer have that desire as of this minute!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
It is manipulation at its best. I am ok though. He is the one losing here. He will not be able to blame this on me. I am currently waiting on the info from the flower order...the owner of the shop is looking it all up now. I will have as much proof as possible when I do confront him about it. Im just tired of his lies. Funny how he got mad at me the other day when he thought I was lying to him about something.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I am so sorry that it has come to this. You are so grounded this time around. I see no panic in your reactions or actions. I can tell that while you are sad you are not afraid. This will be difficult and he will turn this around on you but you know in your heart that there truly is nothing more you could have done.
hugs and love to you and the kids. ~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
I am so sorry. I agree with everyone that you sound strong. My only question to you would be...does it make just a tad bit of sense to cool off for a few days before you confront and throw his as* out?
Only you know what you can tolerate so I am not questioning your stance with H.
God Bless, Eric
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"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Well Eric, Are you saying I should cool off, or do it while Im mad?? Because as it stands now, im waiting to cool off a bit. But then again, I sometimes handle things better or easier when I am mad.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I am saying cool off first. Give yourself a day or so before you have this conversation with H.
That is what I would do.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
