I still don't have the detachment thing down completely. She knows what buttons to push and she keeps pushing until she gets a response from me. I don't do it nearly as often and when it does happen, I apologize for speaking to her that way or whatever the occasion calls for.
Last week, after one of our talks, we were both in the bed room and she was walking out to go sleep on the couch. I called her back in to say something. She didn't like what I was saying and said that she was just telling her friend the other day that I was the only person in the world who could make her feel about 1 cenemeter tall. She had a smirk on her face and it just really put me over the edge. It took all the control I had just to keep my voice down. The kids were sleeping and I said, pretty calmly, " Okay, I don't know why I am still talking to you. Get the hell out of my room and go sleep on the couch where you belong."
Anyway, she brought it up after she went to talk to her L. She said she didn't mind fighting and arguing up until I yelled at her. I said, "I didn't yell. I may have raised my voice, but you are right, that was no way to talk to you no matter how mad I was and it won't happen again. I apologize for taling to you that way, but not for what I said."
That was followed by a couple of days that were almost normal. Now it's back to crap again.
