Questions for the Letting Go Vets

[Khudoo]

Steve,

I am letting go and getting on with my life even to the extent of taking an OW on vacation but obviously wouldn't be here if somewhere in the back of my mind I didn't want my M to survive.

I think it is very important the way we communicate with everyone including our EX's as this sets the tone for future interactions. It doesn't mean you have to be a "puppet" or a doormat.

For example if I replied to every email and conversation she opened with "Fu$k you" would that help in winning someone over. Although i dont think she will dump the OM based on how i phrase my emails it does affect the way we interact.

Politeness shows confidence and swagger so long as you don't compromise the message. Anger is an emotion and still shows you care but in a negative way.

[soleil]

Definitely don't tell her "F off" ech time you start a conversation with you.

The best way is to be nice, well-mannered, but not sickeningly sweet.

It goes a very very long way.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

For example if I replied to every email and conversation she opened with "Fu$k you" would that help in winning someone over. Although i dont think she will dump the OM based on how i phrase my emails it does affect the way we interact

Tell her if she says this to you, you will not continue reading the email. Once you see this, stop reading.

[Khudoo]

Definitely don't tell her "F off" ech time you start a conversation with you.

The best way is to be nice, well-mannered, but not sickeningly sweet.

It goes a very very long way.

I would never do that and was just replying to Steve saying that in my opinion the tone of the emails is important even when you are letting go.

Absolutely agree nice, well-mannered, but not sickeningly sweet.

And "no response" if the purpose of her communication is to start an email war.

[soleil]

Oh. My bad.

Yep, if she is going to go all nuts on you and yell at you and cuss, you don't even have to respond.