"Sol, I feel pissed just knowing that you have to listen to this crap from him! He ends the M, despite your wishes, and now you're supposed to feel sorry for him because he'll "never be happy again" blah blah blah...OMG, I wanna puke!"
Wii, I'm used to hearing this from relative newbies, but surprised to hear it from you.
Where is there room for compassion or understanding?
OT, I just get upset when WAS's use the LBS without regards to their feelings. I have no doubt that they too have feelings about the end of the M, I know my wife did when we separated but she didn't expect me to take care of her! She dealt with it in her own way and let me deal with my grief. That's just utter selfishness to do otherwise. And yes, I do have compassion for them. They had their dreams destroyed too. They had visions of how a life with someone would be and it didn't turn out that way. That is a loss. I know in my case, my W refused to go for counselling and she'd already decided that their was no hope for us. I sometimes think how hard it must have been to live year after year intimately with someone you don't love and don't think you could ever love again. She had her pain which was as real as mine. Btw, the $2 comment is familiar but I can't place it, no prize for me! Sol, sorry for the postponement. It's a tough go when you are prepared for the end and it doesn't come and then you have to prepare all over again. Hang in there!
