He is a DIFFERENT person right now. He has the weight of the world on his shoulders and its obvious. I don't see the OW as competition (as I rightfully did previously). I personally find the OW kind of sad if she feels that having a R with my H right now is a healthy thing. I know he's not right and to a certain extent, HE knows he's not right.
BINGO! The OW/OM/OP is not the competition in an MLC affair as in a "regular affair." MLCers see the OP as a "friend" in a twisted way. In my case, I saw the OW as my "best, new friend." Whereas in a "regular affair", the OW/OM actively plans with the WAS to steal away from the LBS. Which is why "regular affair" OW/OMs pressure the WAS for a D.
Puppy,
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did it happen after some specific, traumatic life event?
Always happens 99.9% of the time for the MLCer. You'd find this interesting: My new gal is a former MLCer. I was surprised to hear her story. She exhibited the classic signs of MLC. Her grandfather died (she was practically raised by him since her own father owned a bakery store and was not around very much) years ago and she became "lost" and "vacant" and had an OW for almost a year! When my NG's MLC ended, she fell apart and flew down to her best friend's home and collapsed into her arms sobbing. NG was in a lot of pain at that time and ended her MLC affair with the OW. Strange, twisted journey.
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Way to much debate on here and in Infidelity forum, and not enough helping of the newbies who need it.
Man up, Puppy! Debates are welcome and fruitful where we can learn from each other's experiences. A lot of smart and articulate people in these parts! However, debating for debate's sake is not the way to...we all come here to learn from one another. I ain't afraid of a strong man or woman!
I can say if you tried to affair bust W's OM while she was in MLC during that three month period...she'd flushed right back into the EAC tunnel. And you'd wait a loooooong time before Mrs. Puppy returned home. You said you are not one for much patience.
Lance and Puppy,
Come on over to the WH for a beer summit. I am not talking about the White House. I am talking about the Wonka House!!
Whereas in a "regular affair", the OW/OM actively plans with the WAS to steal away from the LBS. Which is why "regular affair" OW/OMs pressure the WAS for a D. 
