Blindsided, Just served with papers!

[robx]

So she finally caved:

her reply after my last one was :

Fine. you wanted them sat night

Me: yes

Her: Fine

That is that. The anger she yields is just crazy. Did I take the lead here? we still dont have a plan in place which I will put what I would like together and ask her the same.

of course she's angry,
ever here the saying
"... be careful what you wish for because you just might get it"

Her filing for divorce was her power move, her gesture to the world that she's big and strong and can make it all on her own without you and that her life will be all peaches and cream.

By your own words & descriptions, nearly every time you see her, she is in a state of disrepair, looking like she got a few hours sleep, overworked, tired, beat, drained, etc. etc. But the life she asked for was one to be single from you and not have you around to help and learn to be big girl and live on her own and take care of everything on her own, where previously living with you, you shouldered a large portion of the responsibilities that she never had to get involved with.... until now.

And you on the other hand appear to be living good, thriving, you got your own place, work is good, going to the gym, taking care of yourself, working on your personal development, renewing your faith & spirituality, living a good life and taking care of your children and you are busy as heck but still managing quite well.

I'm sure your wife expected you to fail miserably,
she didn't expect you to be succeeding and thriving.

And yes... she will be angry at you,
how dare you be so happy and move on with your life in a positive direction when SHE decided to divorce you?! This isn't how she envisioned her plan to work out. You were supposed to be the person struggling, having a hard time with things, you were supposed to chase her, work hard for her, "fight for her" (remember she said it herself) and guess what..... none of that happened according to her original plan.

Keep doing what you're doing,
expect another delay from her and reasons why it's taking longer, don't expect them to be valid reasons.