Puppy,
My Husband went through a series of traumatic events that I feel pushed him into MLC.

We moved across the country for a new job after he had been unemployed for about 6 months, his Father died, and we found out that one of the twins I was carrying had passed away.
On top of this we were doing construction on our home and we had his Mother living with us as well as taking care of our 8 kids.

This is enough for anyone to nut up.
With all of that being said, my Husband was one of the most straight edged people I had ever met.
Very active in our church, very family oriented, no drugs, drinking or infidelity.

He came from a family that seemed very normal until I began to find things out about his parents. His Mother would sulk and lay guilt trips on people if she didn't get her way. She was/is very manipulative and my H was never allowed to talk about "feelings".

When I "exposed" my Husband's infidelity nobody believed me. And I mean nobody. I snooped and find out way more information then I ever needed to know and basically had a complete breakdown over it.

Everyone thought that because my Husband was such a nice guy, that I was just exaggerating and making something out of nothing.

It wasn't until he actually loaded up the car and drove 3000 miles to begin a new life with his high school girlfriend that they started to see something was amiss.

He got fired from his job because he had become so entrenched with the EA and completely lost his focus.

He told so many people so many lies about me and our situation that I was constantly defending myself.

Once I began to understand about MLC and start to realize that this wasn't about me I could begin to actually have compassion for him.

There are so many things that he did and said that were very evil and traumatic, most are in the archives.

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.