I have actually gotten an email and text from her, about the kids of course. But the strange thing was, it was stuff she didn't really need to say (obvious details about things). It was almost like she wanted to communicate with me.
This is your power. Don't underestimate the effect it will have on her if she can't get her "fix" of you when she wants. These WAW's outwardly show resolve about their decision, but inside, they are scared and anxious about what they're doing. They need to "check in" with you every now and then to get that anxiety reduced. The less available to her you are, the more you show her you're moving on, and now have other things in your life, the more that anxiety will grow and grow.
Unfortunately, you are similarly suffering from fear and anxiety over losing her, and you'll be very tempted to use these little contacts to lower YOUR anxiety. You have to be the stronger one. You need to get her doubting herself, doubting her decision. As long as she knows you're there as her fallback plan, she'll stay on her current path.
Don't worry that you'll be pushing her away by rebuffing her attempts at communicating with you, as long as you do it in a harmless "too busy to talk right now" kind of a way. It will make her think MORE about you, and increase her doubt. As time goes by, and she can't get her fix and reduce that anxiety, it will get harder and harder for her to consider her chosen path to be the best one. This is your power. Use it.
