I'm going to follow up with my lawyer today to see what is taking him so long with my paperwork. My W is going overseas for two weeks on a church mission, so nothing will be done on her side in the interim, but I'd like to have my changes incorporated into the documents to get them ready to submit to her when she returns.
I haven't read your older threads in awhile. If I remember, you told her that this is all coming. There is no surprise on her part. (except that you actually did it) Her mission trip, her committee, her church is what she is choosing over her marriage. I think that it is entirely appropriate to have her served when she gets back.
Originally Posted By: pigskin
She's been going through her benefits at her new job and we sat down to plan out the choices. She kept referring to what "we" will elect for the next year, since she has to repeat the process in January. Not from the standpoint of the implications of us being divorced, but planning for our normal family expenses for 2011.
She seems to be in denial that there is no "we" for 2011. I plan on getting all of this ended before the holidays.
The divorce will require emotional capital that she just doesn't have to spare right now. She's getting affirmation for going on her mission trip. She is caught up in the heady chemicals of her affair. She won't realize that it is a house of cards until she see the deck scattered around her feet and maybe not even then. She has some powerful self-talk going and the story that she's telling herself would make the Brothers Grimm proud.
