Just wanted to come and give the update you've all been looking for... short and sweet? I'm HOME!
My wife and I are back together again, working on the relationship and the family. It's been a long, tough road that started back in February of this year. By no means do I believe that we are out of the woods yet and I now realize that DB'ing has really only just begun.
This is a scary time for me right now as there are so many questions that will remain unasked and more than likely unanswered. That's ok right now. I take each day as it comes and am thankful to have it with her. I see how easy it can be to fall back into the same ol, same ol and that's quite the opposite of what I want.
How did it happen? Tough to say. Those that have followed my threads know that the link between the two of us, other than the kids, was getting together for our daily Starbucks ritual. We did that pretty much every day while seperated (against the conventional wisdom of most here ) but what made it different was that I gave her my complete, undivided attention. Since I'm not really all that sure of how all this started in the first place it's hard to know or even hazard a guess at what it was that turned things around. I don't press for those answers and I'm not really all that sure I want to know.
So here we are. Making plans for our first family trip in 4 years to Disney World. Talking about new houses. Slowly getting more comfortable with each other again (I might be pushing this a little harder than I should right now...gotta be patient) and basically enjoying life together. We've got a lot to work on and I know it won't be easy but the biggest hurdle has been cleared.
A huge thanks to Kent for being there at a moments notice! Lisa, Sheila, Wit, Greg...ya'll have all been wonderful and I sincerely appreciate the support you've given throughout some of my darkest days here. All of you who've posted and I just didn't start a dialogue with...your thoughts, concerns, and encouragement were the lifeline that kept me on the right path...thank you.
I never felt comfortable giving advice...couldn't seem to follow it myself. I pray for each and every one of you reading this that you will find your path and your happiness. Keep searching..it will come. Just remember that my last thread, "Patience...", really did fit in my case. Be patient. Be loving. Be understanding. Be forgiving.
I will be moving over to the "Piecing..." forum when I do get back online again. That has been the biggest change for me...LESS COMPUTER ACCESS!!! I work on it all day and don't need to do it all night!
) but what made it different was that I gave her my complete, undivided attention. Since I'm not really all that sure of how all this started in the first place it's hard to know or even hazard a guess at what it was that turned things around. I don't press for those answers and I'm not really all that sure I want to know.
