I'm very sorry you're leaving. From the work I've seen you do, I've enormous respect for your compassion, wisdom, and humour. And, yes, patience with Newbies.
But I think it's a shame you feel there's too much debate here. I think what's being discussed is crucial to the whole question of why a spouse should stand for a person in MLC, and why they should try to cultivate compassion for them rather than writing them off as crazy. I have to confess, when I go to other forums and see the MLC-bunch written off as deluded and wrong-minded (and taking the wrong approach to dealing with affairs) I feel sorry that this place has become so oppositional. I was only trying to express that I feel there are cases where people should not leap immediately into affair-busting, but rather build up their strength, knowledge, support networks, etc, before deciding whether that is the best route to take. Because, clearly, instant "outing" does not work for everyone.
