Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

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Good luck. This is the right thing to do in this situation.

Go do what John wants to do this weekend, and when you get back, then it's all about you and your kid. W doesn't want to play house anymore, then you are OK with that.

If she starts bugging you about the attorney again, ask her if she found a job yet because you aren't going to pay for everything, and she needs to be able to support herself, she needs her own lawyer (and you aren't paying for hers. You are paying for yours.), and not working is not a good plan for her being single, and you just thought she should know she ought to plan for that.

Then go out and get yourself a good attorney that will fight for your parental rights and who can advise you how to best proceed so that you protect your assets and parental rights.

Your W has one game plan: get John to make divorce easy by paying for it all. That's as mature as her plan is. You need a better plan that involves dropping the rope and letting her know that John is done begging her to come back.

She wants a divorce/seperation, then fine, this isn't working for you anymore either (and it isn't. Two words: "Panic Attacks"). This is not healthy. Protect yourself and your child. You will proceed toward divorce because this isn't good enough for you or your child anymore. Your wife's sense of entitlement has her crossing (non-existent) boundaries.

Here are some reasonable boundaries:

"I will not be the only one willing to work on this Marriage anymore".

"I will not pay for anything I am not legally required by law to pay"

"I will not discuss legal matters with my W anymore." (that's what attorneys are for).

And here's a new mantra for you when you are feeling weak:

I do not want to be in a relationship with somebody who doesn't love me and treats me accordingly. It's not healthy for me or my child. I will let them go, and I will make a better life for me and my child because we DESERVE a better life than this.