I suspect that, once it's begun, one affair is much like another. The difference is that the affair is only one part of a recognizable series of stages that the MLCer goes through, and not the final one. Some MLCers don't include affairs among their addictions. Somewhere in the resources I read that even nuns & priests can have MLCs, even without spouses to react against.
I agree, my mother went through a very recognizable crisis or mlc after my step-father passed away. Although at the time I wasn't familiar with the label of mlc, I could clearly see what was taking place.
She just could not deal with what had happened. She had most, if not all of the classic signs of a mlc except for a OM. Her OM was a slot machine.
