"Sol, I feel pissed just knowing that you have to listen to this crap from him! He ends the M, despite your wishes, and now you're supposed to feel sorry for him because he'll "never be happy again" blah blah blah...OMG, I wanna puke!"
Wii, I'm used to hearing this from relative newbies, but surprised to hear it from you.
Where is there room for compassion or understanding?
If a WAS doesn't demonstrate emotion, they are evil and heartless. If a WAS demonstrates emotion, they are selfish and stupid. What is wrong with this picture? It shows closed-minded, prejudgment. There is nothing in the LBS's eyes a WAS can do and be judged "decent" for it. What is wrong with that picture? In the end, there really isn't much difference between a WAS and an LBS except timing and the ability of LBSs to exercise wild amounts of denial, with the WAS tending to more fear of facing reality and running away rather than denying it and sticking with it.
We make hard choices in are lives, some with difficult, even devastating costs. Sometimes those are the choices we have to make. Anyone who thinks that we can live our lives making choices that don't have costs we regret is someone lacking in age, wisdom or compassion. Even when we choose the best thing, sometimes that thing has costs that are excruciating to bear. That is part of the life of a human.
Divorce isn't an easy choice, it is hard on everyone, and the WAS has to carry the burden of putting it in motion even though hindsight shows most Ms that make it to these boards are better off dead. I WANT MY $2.
Explain the previous sentence and you win a prize.
