As a husband (for now) I dont really care for the wya he puts everything on you. Yes I have said to my W, that when things got rough, she is strong and she will get through this. But as I look back now, she is strong, but that is not what she wanted to hear from me, she wanted to be rienforced in a loving way, I rienforced her strength, but not lovingly it was more like a Dad telling their kid to brush it off and get up. That is not how a H treats a W. I am not downplaying your H just reflecting on what I have learned....