It got more interesting tonight. I went with a buddy to watch saints and vikings, blah to the game. On the way, I texted her to remind her to have the kids call me, the phone rings less than a minute later and my little girl is on the phone talking so cute. I talk to her about spending time with daddy this weekend and she got so excited. The W always has me on speaker and it pisses me off!!! you cam tell she is right there next to the phone. So I then talk to S, I ask him to take me off speaker so I can hear him better, he and I talk for a while then I tell him goodnight and hang up. Less than 30 seconds later I get a text from you know who:
W: We have to agree on things. U cant just tell them whatever and expect that to happen/
Me:They need to spend time with me how is this an inconvenience to you?
W:Im not saying they dont. They should be able to see you more than a night here or there. The whole weekend accomplishes that. I have plans with them this weekend, so you can have them next. I think thats fair. And you can see them for a few hours every thursday night and so that when its your weekend you can have them Thurs, Fri and Sat thru sunday morning on your weekends.
Me: Im still going for 50/50 so Im glad you think you can plan there time without talking to me as well. It works both ways Wife. Dont think I am just going to go along with your plan. You did not discuss with me anything this weekend as far as the kids time.
W: I have tried to call time after time but u dont seem to care to answer my calls and u never even answer all my texts(proof I have been dark ) The times we hjave been able to communicate, its short and oyu seem to wanna shove me off. So we are going to implement this plan come next week?
Me:None of your calls or texts have been about a plan for the kids, I will take them this saturday we can start a plan next week that we BOTH agree on.
W: That's cause you always hang up or dont answer so I never get to ask. Im sorry you dont like it, but we are busy this weekend. What day do you leave next weekend?
Me: I am busy we will talk about it tomorrow.
W:Im busy tomorrow W: Its almost 9, what could possibly be more important? W: I have a possible solution if you would tell me what day you are leaving, but like I said you always shove me off.
I did not respond after the last few. The last three from the wife were all about 15 mins apart. It took all my strength not to lose it with her. So I yelled at every play during the game.
She didnt mention plans with the kids this weekend only 3 hours ago with the first round of texts. She knew I was waiting for the kids to call, and I had to text her to get them to call. Is she using the kids to play who has the power? Maybe she is mad that the first hearing was postponed? wasnt my doing I showed up ready to get the ball rolling, Im sure her L let her know this.
What am I dealing with here?
She tells ,e she wants me to see the kids more and then when I am there to do so, she tries to set the rules?
there is no schedule in place since I just moved to my own place from the other place she held over my head because of the "bachelor pad" scenario being bad for the kids. She says seeing them every once in a while. I have been in my own place for a little over a week and have had them over 3 times.
I dont like the way she is going with this, I feel she is using the kids as bait or an excuse for me to taking her interactions.
Her comment above using the guilt factor of me being busy and throwing it back at me that its 9 and what is more important than this?
She does not talk about a plan or the kids most the time when she calls or texts, its meaningless bullsh!t and when she does call and I dont answer she doesnt leave a VM. I would expect if it had to do with a shcedule or the kids a VM would at least state that?
How do I handle things from here? I do not want her to use the kids this way, its immature and it gets me fumed!!!!
) The times we hjave been able to communicate, its short and oyu seem to wanna shove me off. So we are going to implement this plan come next week?
