You probably found all the same things I did. The sites with a positive bent towards D all gloss over the data if they mention it at all. They all have positive, happy strategies on how to make it as positive as possible for the kids and assert that the outcome is really dependant on how the parents approach it. They don't realize that they are arguing from a deficit.
Yes, we can all effect the outcome, and our kids can be well adjusted and happy if we do such and such, but they don't spell out the implied "IN SPITE OF THE DIVORCE". You see, of all the effort we expend a good part of it will be in digging out of the hole that they get dumped in by D.
Think of all that work that could be used making them happier than they are now, that will have to go into getting them back to the present level.
It's just one of the tragedies of our times that society is so accepting of this.
ADAPT. OVERCOME. IMPROVISE. -Tom Highway
Me: 43 W: 40 S12 & S9 Married 17yrs Together 20yrs
