A new beginning to an end

[brenalim]

Sol... all this sounds like what I'm going through now. Remember? He says "I don't know what I'm going to do without you, I'll miss talking to you..." BLAH BLAH BLAH!!

Just words sol... if he didn't want this D he'd make it happen. Words are cheap, actions are meaningful. Until he spouts the words "I don't want a D" and then pulls the paperwork, asks for you to move back in, and goes to marriage counseling... let him suffer!

I know its hard to do that right now because you still love him and don't like seeing people you care about hurting. You are a good person. What did he do when you were hurting from all this? Didn't he say "life was to F&^% up"? He made the mess... don't try to clean it up for him! What will he learn if you do all the heavy lifting?

Saving a marriage isn't easy and loosing one isn't either. You have to decide what you're worth. Look at yourself in the mirror... Then think of the woman you were 10 years ago... would she recognize you now? I did that. The 10 year ago me would have kicked the crap out of me today for letting a man treat me so badly for so long...

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. Keep your head up! If you need to, make a list of all the crappy things he's done to you during this process and let it get you good and pissed before the hearing!