So the proverb to the story....patience and work on my GAL? My W gave me a gift of silence so I should take full advantage of it? I need to read PH's attachment on detachment. As an engineer I see a lot of words thrown around here detachment being one of them. If I was detached from my W then I probably wouldn't care if we D'd or not and I wouldn't be lurking on this site all day looking for answers.
I still think that logically if I am detached the best way to show it is to not send the email on Friday to my W. Why would she care if she is ahead in the detaching dept. Although, I am not emotionally detached I could demonstrate psuedo detachment to my W by not sending it.
I personally think that you should send a greeting in some form. Perhaps less joyful than usual but still from your true heart.
But nothing more, no additional emotional messages.
You have to start understanding the "detachment" as it is known here. It is not an absolute in engineering terms. If you like the term "pseudo" then fine, you can call it that.
It is a perception of you to her, but in the same time it is a preparation for yourself of face the worst - the reality that you will not succeed of inviting her back into your life.
Once you accept the worst, you'll realize that it is not that bad at all. If she catches up to your "detachment" she may stop running and you will be ready to start the new chapter with wisdom.
One thing is for sure. While WAS is running around there scared and confused we LBS's here have plenty of time to grow, wise up and be ready for their return, so what happened to us will not be allowed to be happen again.
We can do that for US.
Integrity, courage and honor.
If you graduate from this college women will love you forever.
