Jen, jumping in here and I know you don't know me, but please see if your H is willing to check with a medical doctor first. My H is deployed and wants to reconnect with me.
One of the things I have found out through his mail (he stopped it from being forwarded to the OW - says he is done with her - but I am still keeping expectations to zero) and him that he was getting a series of tests done before he deployed. He found out that he had low testerone which made him feel less than a man. He has been so unhappy with himself that it forced him to pull away from the very people (not just me as his wife, he also pulled away completely from his family) who know him best and who love him the most.
This information is still relatively new for me because he is trying to reconnect. I just validate and try to understand. I do not compromise me because that contributed to our situation.
Sometimes, I know men never want to admit or face the possibility of a medical issue.. and my H is definitely one of those guys, but it is amazing that he now admits he has a problem and even that he knows he put me through H$LL and has apologized. He wants to get better for himself no matter what happens. I think that is a good place for him to be and he must complete his journey as do I.
I hope you are able to convince him that seeing an MD would be a good start. I hope everything works out. Take Care.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
