FWIW, I don't like Romeo's suggestion. It invites R talk. It tells him what he's decided -- not a good idea. It closes the door on reconciliation at the same time. It sends very mixed/punitive/blaming messages yet is pursuing at the same time.
Sorry Romeo, I appreciate the caring attempt, but from a much greater distance from this stuff, it looks like a bad idea.
My suggestion sets a clear boundary, Sol's H doesn't get to keep burdening her emotionally and messing with her head. At the same time, it leaves the door open a crack, and puts the onus on him to act, not talk and whine.
