Looks like you are taking the lead in getting the SA in place to protect your finances and daughter. Perhaps write down your own list of non-neogtiables (i.e. time with daughter, funding goes toward for what purpose and discuss it with L to see if they can be enforced.
Since W is apparently continuing the affair, you might want to consider implementing the no contact approach. W needs to get a taste of what life would be like if she were to proceed with D.
May take a few days to get some appointments but things will start happening as early as next week.
I'll keep the changes posted.
Thanks for checking in, Wonka.
As far as no contact, I don't initiate anything right now other than D2 stuff. And, once I have my "path cleared" as far as legal matters, I will build a timeline for what and when she needs to have certain things accomplished and get agreement on the schedule. But I'll have to initiate this and follow up on progress. I won't just wait for her to miss the first deadline.
1-Taxes done and filed 2-refund/credit to account and split 3-truck repaired (her cost) 4-truck traded toward "personal vehicle"(her payment/insurance) 5-revise joint household expense payments (truck gone) 6-due date to remove her stuff from house 7-due date for her bank docs 8-meeting date to begin Sep Agreement meetings 9-Intended date for completion of SA.
And I want to lay out this entire timeline at once.
CD, I like your lists and how organized you get yourself in all of this. This is something I am often bad about. I'm good at big picture stuff but what you are doing is very practical. It really helps, I believe, for your actions to take over your feelings. You think about what constitutes the "doing" part and set yourself towards that. Very nice!!!
YES...I did....darn it!!!! I need the motivation apparently, because I haven't been good about doing it on my own, sadly. I'm going to hold you guys to it too! (evil laugh!)
