Does it matter...I don't know....now you are mind reading.
Asking you a question is mind reading? Funny, I thought asking a question was actually asking a question. I didn't realize I had done that only through imaginary telepathy.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
I got tired of getting beat on. Started reverting my GAL and developing a complex. I will send the BD email on Friday...no lovy dovy stuff, but maybe the cupcake humor.
I am not pursuing. Okay, so I am in a Twilight Zone episode where I am suspended in a dark void with no direction, star or compass to navigate by.
A balloonist in a hot air balloon realized that they were lost. The balloonist lowered the altitude and spotted a boater in a boat below. The balloonist shouted to the boater, “Excuse me, can you help me? I promised a friend I would meet him an hour ago, but I don’t know where I am.”
The boater consulted the portable GPS and replied, “You’re in a hot air balloon, approximately 30 feet above a ground elevation of 2346 feet above sea level. You are at 31 degrees, 14.97 minutes north latitude and100 degrees, 49.09 minutes west longitude.”
The balloonist rolled the eyes and said, “You must be a _______.”
“I am,” replied the boater. “How did you know?”
“Well,” answered the balloonist, “everything you told me is technically correct, but I have no idea what to do with your information, and I’m still lost. Frankly, you’ve not been much help to me.”
The boater smiled and responded, “You must be a ______.” “I am,” replied the balloonist. “How did you know?”
“Well,” said the boater, “you don’t know where you are or where you’re going. You’ve risen to where you are, due to a large quantity of hot air. You made a promise that you have no idea how to keep, and you expect me to solve your problem. You’re in exactly the same position you were in before we met, but, somehow, now it’s my fault.”
So the proverb to the story....patience and work on my GAL? My W gave me a gift of silence so I should take full advantage of it? I need to read PH's attachment on detachment. As an engineer I see a lot of words thrown around here detachment being one of them. If I was detached from my W then I probably wouldn't care if we D'd or not and I wouldn't be lurking on this site all day looking for answers.
I still think that logically if I am detached the best way to show it is to not send the email on Friday to my W. Why would she care if she is ahead in the detaching dept. Although, I am not emotionally detached I could demonstrate psuedo detachment to my W by not sending it.
Okay, I have a question that maybe will help a bit. Do you think in 2 years, it will matter whether you wished her HB or not?
I don't think so. It does matter. I was married before and my ex asked me for one thing and one thing only - never to forget her b-day.
And I have never forgotten. Even if it is just a text message, I have kept my promise and I will honor it as long as I live.
She cheated on me for whatever that is worth, but I strongly believe the friendly vs. friends concept. She is not my friend but I am friendly with her and BD greetings are the least of my burdens.
