How To Tell The Kids

[FindingMyVoice]

We were in the house together, but not really together even when we were. We sat on opposite ends of the couch and watched TV or I was on the computer when she was watching shows I didn't like.

Yah, we were just like that. At the risk of reading too much into your feelings, it sounds like you were a little lonely too?

We didn't talk that much, but I think lots of men are that way unless prompted.

Yes, I agree they are. Well, I don't know how old you are but I think that's what a lot of us grew up seeing in our own families right? But I do think that it's important that men become more comfortable talking if they possibly can. Terrence Real's books has some good info on that - some stats on how the capacity to talk openly can positively affect even things like how long we live!

She read bits and pieces, but they just "annoyed" her and they didn't apply to her anyway. She refuses to look deeper into her own issues and prefers to blame this all on my actions or lack thereof.

I am sorry to hear this Dan. Give her time though, hey? She likely needs to get uncomfortable enough with even her new sitch (which, if she hasn't done this work yet, I can almost guarantee she will), to realize how important it is that she does this.

I do continue to do things that I enjoy. I have to or I would go insane. I guess I am just having one of those days.

Well, you're entitled to those days too right? They're gonna happen. Seems like you can't get to the good days without a having few of the crappy ones thrown in there. Take good care of yourself this weekend. PS - You too Ris!!