Whereas a straightforward, non-MLC affair is done for purely selfish reasons which are the addicting behaviors...
Oh, I think you'd get a LOT of "beg-to-differ" opinions on that one if you posted it to FWASs, Wonka, lol. That's not ME talking, that's every former wayward I've ever spoken to or posted with. They ALL have "good reasons" (and many ARE legitimate, altho not excusing); none of them see their own situation as "selfish." Some potent mix of marital neglect, resentment, entitlement, possibly some abuse, and a little old fashioned ATTENTION from the opposite sex, and --WHAM-O!! Conflagration.
As I've posted on here before, I think that's part of the issue I have with the whole classification of affairs into "MCL affairs" and "regular" affairs. MLCers like to report how crazy their wayward spouse is acting (and they are), how LITTLE SENSE they are making (and they're not), and how IRRATIONAL and even RECKLESS they are being (and they are) . . . as opposed to . . . what? Explanable affairs? Justifiable ones? Rational ones?
It's like the "not-guilty of murder, by reason of insanity" distinction. I mean, what SANE person decides to KILL another human being???
