WAW left on Independence Day and not communicating

[MrBond]

When it comes to my job if I have the data I can make clear and informed decison...I do it daily, but the limbo that I am in with my M has me totally befuddled.

Yep that's why you're struggling with this. Data is true and exact. Your W is not a machine YOU can fix. The machine has to fix itself. You can't control the machine's actions and it's driving you nuts. That's where detachment comes in.

You have kids from your other marriage. I don't know how involved you were in raising them, but it's the same thing. You let them go enough to let them grow on their own. You know and feel you love them, but you don't go off and push that love onto them every minute. You care enough to let them go and grow on their own. That's how your W is right now.