I believe my W felt alone too because I was preoccupied with other things. Will she feel less alone on her own?
You know, I don't know if that feeling of loneliness comes solely from how much actual time people spend together. I think just as much of it comes from feeling disconnected mentally and emotionally. You know? Have you ever read 'Hold me Tight' by Dr Sue Johnson? That's a great book. It really helped me, and my H too (at least the chapters he read of it!!)
I understand. We were in the house together, but not really together even when we were. We sat on opposite ends of the couch and watched TV or I was on the computer when she was watching shows I didn't like. We didn't talk that much, but I think lots of men are that way unless prompted.
I haven't read that book, but I may check it out. I do have lots of recommended reading to choose from now.
I did read Mars/Venus and I found that to be enlightening. I also read getting the love you want, couple skills and the 5 love languages. I thought they were all pretty good and encouraged W to read them too. She read bits and pieces, but they just "annoyed" her and they didn't apply to her anyway. She refuses to look deeper into her own issues and prefers to blame this all on my actions or lack thereof.
I agree with you on asking for help. She does recognize her issues here, but has done nothing to make any improvements. I suggested working relationship and communication exercises, but she said she didn't need to do that.
I do continue to do things that I enjoy. I have to or I would go insane. I guess I am just having one of those days.
