My counselor said the same gist to my W when she said she shouldn't have had to ask me for things.
Wow really?!
Can I share one more thing in case it helps? Another reason I'd be scared to ask my H to help or support me in ways I needed, was because he simply had never had done it that way before. So I thought - well that must mean if I asked him for that, I was essentially asking him to be someone he wasn't. I figured it would be disrespecting him to do so - that I'd be asking him to be someone he's not.
So it went unasked; and therefore unanswered (until my IC clued me in of course).
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.