I believe my W felt alone too because I was preoccupied with other things. Will she feel less alone on her own?
You know, I don't know if that feeling of loneliness comes solely from how much actual time people spend together. I think just as much of it comes from feeling disconnected mentally and emotionally. You know? Have you ever read 'Hold me Tight' by Dr Sue Johnson? That's a great book. It really helped me, and my H too (at least the chapters he read of it!!)
Originally Posted By: DanF
When I asked her why she didn't ask me for help, her answer was that she shouldn't have to.
Yah, I'd disagree with her here too. And I'd felt this way about my H too at one time. But, here's another way to look at this, in case it helps? IMHO, I actually think there's actually fear underneath people saying "I shouldn't have to ask him/her for help, (or whatever it is that they want). I think it's scary to ask for what we want in a relationship. It opens you up to rejection. So I think people say that (that they 'shouldn't have to ask') just so they can avoid facing having to do something scary for which they may be rejected.
Originally Posted By: DanF
Right now I just feel like I have to accept it is over and move on, but it is so hard.
I really feel for you Dan, I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time.
PS enjoy your football game tonight. Glad to see you're still doing things you enjoy doing - that's real important. Take care, FMV.
My counselor said the same gist to my W when she said she shouldn't have had to ask me for things.
