I agree with you in that I am doing things for her and I am slowly transitioning in doing these things for me.
In regards to the b-day email my concern is that my W will see it as manipulation on my part. Even you question my motive regarding the email. My email if I send it will be very simple HB with no syrupy message attached to it. And it would only be sent to acknowledge her day.
I feel like I am walking in a minefield that is why I am over analyzing things. I want to do the right thing because it is the right thing to do and not do things as in the LBS script.
