WAW left on Independence Day and not communicating

[NotCrackingUp]

Hurtinhartford
I will also read the link about detachment. You say when we have contact we're lucky. Yes and no. The wounds can't heal when they're reopened daily. It's very difficult to detach from someone who's phoning you, coming to the house, pleasant one minute and cold and hard the next. I even believe it would be better for my WAS NOT to have any sight or sound from me. That way, he'd not be fuming with resentment against me and finding some fuel for this at every hand's turn.Your wife is away from you, doesn't see you or speak. That way, I think, angry feelings against you can't be fuelled and will die down. Maybe then good memories can resurface, and when you're not reminding her of you, she will have to face what she's doing and feeling. That's the way I see it, so I try to be scarce for my H. So he can stop griping and blaming me and look at himself. I've hated his moving out, but one very good thing is that he saw that as the end of all his troubles. Rid of me, life would be good. Now I can tell he sees his demons have followed him and are not all attached to me. Don't get me wrong, I know if we're at breaking point, I had some hand in it. But by being away, he can see more clearly the reflection of his own choices.

You still love your wife and it's terrible not to be in her life. But that way, you can heal better. I've visualised putting my feelings for H in a box and shutting the lid. They're there, I can reach for them, but I've tidied them away for the present. It helps me get through the week.
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