I agree that I was controlling while we were together, but not now. I have communicated very sparringly. In fact she is the one in control by allowing only one means of communication.
All of my eamils have been positive with no discussion about R, M or D. The B-day email would be because I love her and care for her, not so that I would get an email back.
I see that I need to read and reread detachment because my understanding is to act as if they passed away. There would be grieving period, but overtime you would move on. I will read what Pinhead attached so that I can understand detachment.
Most of you are lucky...maybe not in that your spouses are in communication with you. So you understand where you stand and can adjust to the sitch that arises. So in my case what should I do? I know GAL, 180's what else....my W cannot see my 180's if I do not see her. Yes, maybe she can see by my patience and that I am not showing anger towards her
