I know. There are two paths. Create warmth by showing kindness, empathy, love. Or going dark and maybe creating mystery to get her to stop running.
These are the facts:
1. My W has not spoken with me in 9 weeks. 1a. I have demonstrated 180's by showing patience, humor and confidence. 2. I have recieved 2 eamils from her each time I went dark and let her go. 2a. The first email I overreacted with too many emails and pushed her back. 2b. The second email she sent on her own and I sent her a reply the next morning and did what she requested. More 180's (still had her mail, did not change the lock on the mailbox). 3. She has kept every email that I have sent her since this thing started.
If I send her a b-day email, which I would love (heart) to do then I violate letting her go and my word means nothing to her. i am not a gambling man and certainly do not want to do anything by the seat of my pants. My thought process seems valid to me....keep poking holes though.
