Great question and great points on both sides of the debate.
Unfortunately in most cases the discovery of the affair is the first sign that the LBS notices and therefore they would not be able to identify that the wayward spouse is MLC or not. So ultimately, I think that exposure is warranted if the weyward spouse does not stop the affair.
When I found out about my W's affair I exposed immediately in the form of an email to all her soroity sisters whom she was with on an annual reunion weekend at the beach when she met the OM. I felt since they sat by and watched her engage in this behavior they should certainly know what happened and I was shocked when they ran to her defense.
It was 3 or 4 months later that I started to suspect MLC.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
