The Last Resort Technique is outlined in the book of Michele Weiner Davis called the Divorce Remedy. It is basically the same as the 180 that is described in her book as well. She states it is a final ultimatum for people that have either separated or filed for divorce. Essentialy you avoid all contact if posible. It allows the LBS to show that life goes on and that you will function again. In some cases the spouce may try to come back into the relationship again. It does not always work but is worth a try. I suggest you buy the book and read it because it is well outlined.
Bobby,
I have to say I honestly didn't know whether to laugh or cry at this response. No one has ever asked me if I have actually read the book or not before.
FTR, (to the boneheads...)Yes I have read DB, DR, 5LL, Dr. Phil, ACOA, the DSM IV, every post in the MLC archives, all of the resource threads, and too much more to recount.
I have lived with MLC, on and off since 1998. And still, I am no expert. No one is really.
Personally, I think you are misunderstanding LRT. It is an ultimatum. One where the LBS says we are either working on this or not. If it is NOT, well then, the LBS needs to take measures to enforce it. IE, proceeding with divorce.
It is also not a "technique". It truly is a state of mind. You have to be ready and willing to accept either outcome, no more crapping around. Work on the marriage, or end it. Not them, but YOU. Because it is the ultimate boundary.
When I saw that you were employing it for the last several days, I believed that you were confusing it with No Contact. Which, is what it appears you are doing. Detatchment and no contact.
Right now, that is exactly where you should be.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
