Personally I will feel horrible that is why I have been aganizing over this, but I feel it is necessary to do something that my W will not expect (180) and maybe she doesn't expect it now and will not care....who knows. All I can do is base my actions on what I know about my W. NCU I will feel horrible, but if it assists me DB then it will be worth it.
I need to detach from my W. I am still trying to wrap my head around that concept because to me if I detach means that I don't care and if I don't care then why am I on the site and trying to DB. As I mentioned before there are posters on this site who still have a candle lit for a spouse who has been gone for years...have they detached?
Mindreading...
And I bet your wife expects the card.
And detachment doesn't mean you don't care. It's too complicated to put into one sentence. Try this link:
