I agree and I have picked a course of action. I am staying consistent with letting go...if I can just get my heart around that then I will be successful no matter what happens. However, you do have to monitor the reaction from your spouse and adjust accordingly or risk driving the train off the tracks. Right now I am just trying to get movement from my W. And Yes I am focusing on GAL.
Send her the card then. Happy B-day and nothing more.
