DBing while in MC

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I don't have any dates locked in yet, but I'm aiming for Sept 27-30th. I need to be back on the 1st for my youngest daughter's birthday. This will give me and the W eleven days apart. We need them...

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Journaling,

Wife is concerned about my trip. Since she's handling the money now, I'm sure some of it is due to the travel costs, but she almost slipped when we were reading in bed. We had been small talking about stuff and she started with "I don't understand why you..." then caught herself. I just kept reading. She can ponder why I want to go, especially right after she's come home after being away for a week.

Busto, what part of S.D. do you live in? If I stay at my brother's place, that's up in Escondido.

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Journaling,

Had an MC session this morning. Unlike most of our other sessions where there's been a remarkable lack of conflict, today was much different. We talked about jealousy, boundaries between men and women as friends, self-esteem, and codependency. Some things that had seemed like they were resolved in the past came hurtling to the forefront. At the end we were both tired, angry and drained.

And I think this was a success.

[TimeHeals]

At the end we were both tired, angry and drained.

And I think this was a success.

If you say so.

[pookie69]

At the end we were both tired, angry and drained.

And I think this was a success.

If you say so.

I rather go waterboarding.

[bustorama]

I'm just a bit south of your bro(down the 15 and across the 56). In Carmel Valley (east of Del Mar). Easy to get together.

We could do beers or go for a run, golf or hike.

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I used to live in Del Mar, but that whole area has just blown up in the last few years. Used to be a sleepy seaside town...

Trip is off at least for this month, can't get the approval from my work for the PTO.

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At the end we were both tired, angry and drained.

And I think this was a success.

If you say so.

We have issues. I think we've both played them down in the past sessions but they need to be dealt with for us to move forward. And tough issues bring out strong feelings.

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PH,

Maybe dealing with the tough issues is what needs to happen to deal with equally important small issues.

I think getting out in the open and discussing with help to calm some of the strong feeling for both you and your W.

Do not stop communicating! You will have success if the talking does not end there.

I hope you have all the success possible.

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Yeah, my preconceptions of MC being painless were pretty stupid. Stuff that we talked about in week 1 is still an issue, and sometimes we take three steps back for every step forward. And things that I worry about aren't big issues at all. So definitely a learning experience, and I'm grateful for the opportunity to understand myself and my W better.