Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[TimeHeals]

she mentioned the other day and my severe panic attack and how she was angry about it. Angry about the things that I said during it (blame). I told her that wasn't me that day, it was someone else. She agreed that she knew it wasn't me that day, but said that it was still scary.

John,

Panic attack?

I picked these out from a list of possible causes:

Short-term triggering causes — Significant personal loss, including an emotional attachment to a romantic partner, life transitions, significant life change, and as seen below, stimulants such as caffeine or nicotine, can act as triggers.[3]
Maintaining causes — Avoidance of panic provoking situations or environments, anxious/negative self-talk ("what-if" thinking), mistaken beliefs ("these symptoms are harmful and/or dangerous"), withheld feelings, lack of assertiveness.[3]
Lack of assertiveness — A growing body of evidence supports the idea that those that suffer from panic attacks engage in a passive style of communication or interactions with others. This communication style, while polite and respectful, is also characteristically un-assertive. This un-assertive way of communicating seems to contribute to panic attacks while being frequently present in those that are afflicted with panic attacks.[3]

Buddy, you have got to be in-control of YOU. This ain't nuthin'. In terms of the possible crap that life could throw at you that you would be forced to accept, this is a walk in the park.

You read all the stuff bolded on passive communication?

I told her that wasn't me that day, it was someone else. She agreed that she knew it wasn't me that day,

Well, who the hell was it then? It sure wasn't me.

What does this even mean? Go back and read about passive communication.