Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[john28]

Spoke to W today regarding some logistics about Friday and traveling to Retrouvaille. I kept thinking - why would she plan on taking a separate car if she was committed to this weekend? Why would she want to be able to leave at anytime? Does she plan on just leaving anyways after she gets there so she can say "I tried, there was nothing more I could do".

So instead of wondering all that crap and mindreading, I just asked her, "Do you just plan on or are thinking of leaving after you get there? Are you going with a negative attitude to start with?"

I figured if she said yes to either of those, I was calling Retro off - it just wouldn't be worth MY time or effort. She answered that she wasn't planning on leaving early and although she didn't like that she was going and felt pressured to go by me that she was still going to go in there as open as she could, but it was tough going in there FULLY open since she felt pressured. She just wanted options in case this turned into a blame game and she was made to feel bad or I treated her badly, she didn't want to have to deal with it for the entire weekend.

For once, I think she was honest with me.

She then asked if I had called a mutual friend and his fiance that lives in that area to see if they wanted to see us sometime Friday. I told her that I had but he couldn't make it since he had some family in town. She seemed a little bummed.

Toward the end of the conversation she mentioned the other day and my severe panic attack and how she was angry about it. Angry about the things that I said during it (blame). I told her that wasn't me that day, it was someone else. She agreed that she knew it wasn't me that day, but said that it was still scary. I validated.