The kids saw us treating each other pretty well. Much better than many parents who are still together. We were respectful, we helped each other, we had fun, we laughed, we talked, we were physically affectionate. There are ways parents act in front of their kids, and there are ways they act in private. We were fine in the former, it was latter that was the problem. Was there a "vibe" maybe the kids would ocassionally pick up on? Maybe, but it's not even close. The pain, anger, fear, confusion, and tears the kids have endured in the last two years is ten times more than they had previously. It's a joke to even consider that they are now better off.
And I'm not even talking about the practical benefits, of them having all their things in one place, and having a home they call their own. Interesting, they now ALWAYS refer to either Mommy's house or Daddy's house, never OUR house. Financially, the kids are much poorer now. My ability to help them with college is dramatically reduced. Again, not even close.
Every bit of research shows that unless there was abuse in the home, divorce is a net negative for kids, and the damage done manifests itself in their later lives.
