That is great and at least taking it slow. I live in a no-fault state as well and we also had a pre-nuptial agreement drawn up prior to M. I am here to absorb as much knowledge as I can before any movement starts.
That is great and at least taking it slow. I live in a no-fault state as well and we also had a pre-nuptial agreement drawn up prior to M. I am here to absorb as much knowledge as I can before any movement starts.
Put together a plan for what to do and say when the movements starts. Don't get caught off guard.
That is why I am here and asking the same questions over and over again and anguishing over small details. Those small details tend to be the ones that start the ball rolling. I want to prepared with plans and have contingency plans if needed. I use to be a wrestler and I learned that counter measures were often times the best offense.
So for instance figure out how to respond if she contacts you wondering why you forgot her b-day provided that you did not send her the greetings.
Or if you did send the greetings, what to say if she sends back "thank you" note.
You know her the best. The point is not to make her feel totally neglected but also show that you have your life and perhaps been a little busy lately.
I would "W I apologize for not sending a b-day greeting I thought that it would not mean that much to you, so happy belated b-day". I'll work on it....
How about "I was having dinner at the restaurant I took you last year for your B-day and it reminded me of it. I wish you had been there. Happy B-day."
