children are resilient

[Ready2Change]

The four of us were dragged down a path none of us wanted to go down. I am pro marriage, but accept the reality of my sitch. I am my kids role model and have projected adult behavior.

The bomb triggered a focused and deeper commitment to my kids as well as to my personal growth. I don't think I would have made the changes if I was still in an unhealthy marriage. I would still be stuck.

If anyone can post the positive effects of divorce on children I would love to read them.

I have a much deeper connection with each of my children.

The parenting responsibilities are now equal. There is no longer an imbalance in responsibilities.

I speak from my core values to my children. "I don't believe that D is the answer to problems in a marriage. I believe that there are other solutions than D. I want your mother to be happy...etc

I understand where the responsibility boundaries are and do not enable irresponsible behavior.

I am more compassionate, empathetic, and understanding.

These are all positive effects for my children. I am sure there are more. I am not saying that divorce is the solution, just the catalyst.