I need the advice from someone on the otherside. This whole sitch has me as the Coach says "Monkey Brains". But I am reading everyone's sitch and it appears the smallest gestures can become major issues down the road.
I am still aganizing over whether to send my W a b-day email. My W has left me and has not communicated with me since July 4th so obviously she is detaching and wanting to move away from me as fast as she can (mind reading). If I follow my heart I would acknowledge the b-day with a simple email, but that may be viewed by her that I am okay with what she is doing, but then again it may help to dimenish negative feelings that have built up over time.
However, if I follow logic I would use tough love and not acknowledge her b-day and treat it as a normal day. I have let her go so by sending the email I send conflicting messages to her.
I am asking the question because the people who have weighed in are 50/50 as I am.
My first instinct would be to let it go. I know the nice guy in you wants to at least acknowledge her day but here's what/why I think you shouldn't.
*It could trigger her to say "Why doesn't he just let it go. It's over."
*You would eventually start to obsess over her reaction or lack of reaction.
*It's not going to change anything. It might actually remind her of what she's trying to escape.
I had a few more reasons before life got in the way...now I can't think of them. So not much help but the bottom line is don't do it.
Smooches, Doodi
"I feel like Rocky in the fifteenth round, beaten beyond recognition, when I realize, the only person I've been fighting for is...myself."
