I do not believe that I ever posted to you but have found your posts to other to be quite enlighting. I am happy that you have a new start and I wish you and your family nothing but the best.
Now as far as exsposing the A - IMO, when someone is in a MLC it does not work. That was my experience.
I found out about my W first EA with a man in another state about a week after the bomb. I confronted and I took responsibility for HER actions. It did not change anythng. THe EA went on for another 2 months. That is when she started a new job and began an PA with her supoervisor.
Since this was 2.5 months post bomb (I was still living in the house and sleeping in the same bed) I often wonder if "technically" this is an A. IMO - it is. I kept my mouth shut for a few months (trying to not confront). I ended up confrontng her (and trust me it was not nice) BUT really I was not in an emotional healthy place to do this. THE confrontation did nothing but bring them closer and IMO made her file.
So IMO - someone in an MLC should never be confronted until the LBS is really (and I mean really) in a place of peace and is willng to live with the consequences that may ensue a confrontation.
Finally, if you think about what an MLC person is going thru...confronting them is in one way a form of control, which does not go over well with someone who is fighting an internal battle.
GOd BLess, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
