Speaking for myself I dont believe or said that divorce is beneficial for most kids. On the contrary, I believe that kids suffer by it. But I do believe that how we, parents, handle our divorce, plays a HUGE role on how the kids will "adjust" and deal with it emotionally. I've seen it and I lived it. That is why I always urge people here, to separate what they feel for their xSs from what is good for their kids regarding interactions, schedules, etc.
